kheng lam jangan marah ya.. nothing bad =p

lolz..i notice one thing that kheng lam likes to take pictures with funny and weird poses.. i actually got lot more pictures than that but my comp was reformatted a few months ago so ya these are the pictures that i got right now..









(took it from ming wai)

well im happy that i met this mr.chin.. lol he is a great guy.. he is just like the other half `sister` LOLZ..
i hope he will receive a good answer after spm.. haha.. GOOD LUCK..

ABOUt friends..
i would like to thank Wan Ming Wai, Sow Huey Ru, Chin Kheng lam, Nicole Khaw, Teoh Lai Yee, Jessie Ong, Law Yi Lin,Poon Yee Ling and all those ppl that i m close with.. I`m really happy to have u guys.. awwwwww u guys have been such good friends..!!!!! lOve you guys..!
I just loveeeeee sitting next to RU in class!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love her lots...
haha..
general question to everyone..(jangan over perasan to think that is U.. lolz)
im just writing what i feel and the conflicts that ppl are facing nwadays..

well it is really difficult to find someone who u can trust and talk to..

If you love him/her,why not just go for it?

IF you wanna sort things out with ur bf/gf or a fren ,sort it by yourself n do u think by telling ur problems to other ppl,do u think he/she wanna help u or helping out for themselves?

If you think u r a gud bf/gf or a fren,did u ever tell her/him URSELF ABOUT everything bou hw u feel bou her/him and what u knw and u don`t like bou him/her?

If u`re unsatisfied with your own life,why ruin others when u feel jealous?
makes u feel better and happier to see someone crying over something that they had lost?

If you really are a good friend, why do you talk bad about him/her and don`t admit for your own actions?

If you think she or he talking bad about u,why not u ask her/him instead of telling everyone that he/she is talking bad about u?

If you`re wondering why u couldn`t do well in UR exams or anything, why not ask or find out instead of complaining?

If you feel that u`re a good friend,try asking others that don`t really know u well to know that answer..?

If you think she/he has cheated you,have u wonder why she/he wanna cheat on u while u think u`re good enough?

If you keep own talking bad about the person that u hate,does it make any difference or benefit u?

If you have your own gf or bf,why do u still wanna talk to ppl`s bf or gf?

If you have your own crush already,Why do you still wanna be so close to someone else`s bf or gf,have u ever feel hw he/she feels?

If you know ur crush has a bf/gf already,why not wait for your turn to come instead of feeling jealous and ruin their relationship,do u think by doing that he/she wan to be with you?

If you think u are considerate enuf,have you ever try to think how others feel before
helping them instead of making things worst.. ?

If you like him or her,Why not just tell him/her?

If you want to be smart,why not just be one?

IF you know u`re not good looking enough,why not improve your looks instead of looking down at yourself?

We all know the answer..
we`re not perfect..
But its up to u for the way u wanna be or what..
just remember..
Don`t be selfish and act innocent..
Trust yourself be4 trusting others..
be true to urself and others..
this is what i learned..

^.^

LOL..sorry didnt update ... malas actually.. >.< nothing interesting happen in school also.. cos its bulan puasa.. but its unfair that the malay girls dont have to run when they came late to school..
but pity jessie .. lol jessie and i came late to school ONE DAY la har.. BUT she was three minutes earlier then me.. lol.. unlucky >.< cos when she reach the school gate, she saw miss LOW standing at the perhimpunan area there somewhere far la har..she is a sial and garang teacher which is like 50+ havent married yet..PJ TEACHER..she was waving at JESSIE asking her to come..SO jessie tot miss low gt sumthing to tell her.. THEN she ran and ran.. all the way up there.. SO ya..she was like.."yes teacher?", said jessie.."ONG JUN YING,U LATE RIGHT? OK..STAND here.. ", said ms.low.. so basically, she ran all the way up there for nothing while me i WAS walking slowly all the way up there...

MORE pICTURES!!

Ooi CHEKK!!!

haha.. mr chin.. >.< he is nice..

What sign u should be..

What Sign Should You Be?



You Should Be A Cancer

What's good about you: you're incredibly kind, caring, and generous

What's bad about you: you can be too moody and impossible to understand

In love: you enjoy wining and dining the object of your affection

In friendship, you're: likely to depend on other friends for emotional support

Your ideal job: historian, marine biologist, or religious figure

Your sense of fashion: you dress to match your mood

You like to pig out on: classic home cooked meals, like mac and cheese

Shes going out to forget they were together
All that time he was taken her granted
She wants to see if theres more than he gave, shes lookin for,
He calls her up hes trippin' on the phone now
He doesn't want her out there and alone now
Knows shes moving it, knows shes using it
Now he's losing it and she dont care


Everybody put your hands up say, I don't wanna be in love,
Feel the beat now if you got nothing left say I dont wanna be in love
Don't give up now, you got a reason to live say, I don't wanna be in love
Feeling good now, don't be afraid to get down say, I don't wanna be in love

He was always giving her attention
Working hard to buy the things she mentioned
He was dedicated by most suckers hated
That girl was fine but she didn't appreciate him
She calls him up, shes trippin on the phone now
He had to get out and he ain't coming home now

Now lets try to forget it that's how he got with her
When he first met her and when they first got together

Chorus

To the beat , to the beat, to the beat, you got nothing to lose don't be afraid to get down
We break up, its something that we do now,
Everyone has got to do it sometime
Its ok, let it go, get out there and find someone (some more)
Its too late to be trippin on the phone here
Get off the wire everything is good here
Stop what you are doingyou don't wanna ruin the sex that you got to find a new one

Chorus

15th of September 2007

well well.. as u know ming wai.. Kheng lam and I asked you to join us for shopping for ooi hoon`s present rite??? well lucky u didnt come.. if not u will be bored to death =p
i Ajak Kheng Lam TO MEET AT 11.30AM.. and u knw what?
he was late for like 1 hour an fifthteen minutes! lolz..if im with ooi hoon,i think it will be different LOL..
We walk around in midvalley for half an hour and we left to central market to get her gift..
ABout the gift.. aikz..sorry la..forgot take a picture of it..
its really nice..! Its meaningful and ya..she can wear it la of course.. what else... pendant la..A HEART-SHAPED pendant with her name engraved on it and her picture is printed on the pendant..



(took it when i meet her up in kasturi waiting for ooi chek)

SO FROM THERE,We decided to join ooi hoon and her sis for a concert in dataran merdeka later at around 7 pm..Ooi chek,who is ooi hoon`s sister..well she was up the whole night talking and having fun with me while kheng lam and ooi hoon were standing beside each other..talking and feeling bored at the same time while waiting for the concert to be start lol..

WELL Be4 the concert actually start..it RAIN!!!!! Lucky ooi chek was smart enuf to bring two umbrellas.. one for me and her and another one for ooi hoon and kheng lam of course..


(ooi chek was holding the umbrella for me while i took her picture! she wouldnt even let me to play under the rain..how sad!)



(Mr.Chin trying to act cute in front of someone)




(Ooi hoon busy busy talking to mui mui jai while kheng lam trying to look for something to impress her)


(Nicholas teo`s fan (ppl in green) bz lining up )


(Mr chin smiling happily showing his phone to ooi hoon)




(he was trying so hard just to get a picture with her but ooi hoon aihz..was facing her back)


(Finally we got in)


(yay we got the front row of the standing area)




(MS. HOON BUSY SMSING THROUGHOUT THE CONCERT WHILE LEAVING MR.CHIN TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE SONGS (Not really gud with mandarin))



(Ooi chek AND ME)




OK.. after the concert..we left dataran merdeka and head to central market where ooi hoon`s parents will be there to fetch us home.. by the time we reach central market..it was around 12.00am already and yes.. it is 16th of september! OOI hoon`s birthday.. we sang her a buffday song and woo hoo.. me and ooi chek went to one corner and leave kheng lam and ooi hoon alone so that Kheng lam can give her the pendant.. >.< Mr.chin PLS make a move laaaaaaaaa,HE didnt so yup... he was so kayuu... well anyways he was nice enuf to be the first person to give her a present! YUP AND WE LEFT.... TATS ALL.. THANKS FOR READING...!

Why is it so Hard to Forgive?

Why is it so Hard to Forgive?

by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC

Human behavior suggests that people are “hard-wired" to retaliate when they have been hurt by another person. Our pride or self-esteem is injured. Our expectations or dreams are disappointed. We lose something very valuable to us. We want recompense for the damages.

But there are other resistances which block our motivation to forgive. Automatic thoughts or beliefs impede us from forgiving others. We tell ourselves, "I won't forgive because he/she never accepts responsibility for what he/she does" or "I would be a hypocrite if I forgave because I do not feel like forgiving" or "Forgiving is only for weak people".

Explanations for behavior can also get in the way. When someone hurts us or lets us down we tend to assign internal causes for behavior to others. We argue that it is based personality or character traits. We tell ourselves, “he’s just so forgetful or careless” or “she doesn’t appreciate me” or “she did that purposefully”. We judge them harshly.

But when we do something wrong or hurtful/disappointing we tend to excuse our own behavior by attributing external causes. In those cases we say “my child made a mess” or “there was a car accident on the highway.” We tend to let ourselves off the hook and give ourselves permission to fail.

This is what psychologists call the “Fundamental Attribution Error”. We assign total responsibility or blame to others for their behavior while explaining away our own negative actions in terms of situational factors. In other words, it’s not our fault because….

It’s important to note that understanding and accepting the error in behavior does not relieve the offending person of moral responsibility. Forgiving someone does not cancel out the consequences of their actions. The goal is to promote empathy and forgiveness and look more realistically at the hurtful events from their point of view.” This involves thinking the best of people rather than jumping to harsh conclusions about their character or intentions.

Lack of empathy (empathy is the psychological highway to forgive others) for others can also get in the way of our ability to forgive. We can develop empathy for others by beginning to change our way of thinking. It is impossible to fully know why a person acted the way that they did. Make room from grace.

When have you been able to have empathy for someone who has hurt you? Ask yourself “do I want things bitter or better?” Forgiveness has a huge impact on our own health and feelings. Forgiveness is not so much about the other person as it is about our own hearts. Forgiveness is for our benefit, but so often things get in the way. Think of a time when you have needed forgiveness.

Don't let resentment imprison you for life, it will destroy you and your other relationships. Lewis Smedes wrote: "To forgive is to set the prisoner free...and to discover that the prisoner was you." Let go of the pain. Give it to God. For God alone understands more than anyone the pain and humiliation you feel. Jesus felt more pain, rejection and humiliation than any person.

Letting go of your hurts is often not an overnight experience. It takes time, but as you work toward it you’ll find that it is worth the effort. Ask God to give you the grace to forgive.

The ability to forgive is rooted in being forgiven ourselves. In the Bible it says that God loves the world so much that he sent his only son so that we could be forgiven. As people we all make mistakes, not one of us can live up to the standard God set on our own. But God promises that if we accept what Jesus did for us, we can be forgiven. The slate can be wiped clean no matter what has happened in the past. God promises us strength for today and bright hope for the future. Whatever happened in your yesterdays God can take care of all of your tomorrows.

You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here's a suggested prayer:

Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Saviour and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of woman you want me to be.

If this prayer expresses the desire of your heart, pray it right now and Christ will come into your life as He promised. If you invited Jesus Christ into your life, thank God often that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about your relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you'll experience life to the fullest.

Lolz..

what was i thinking..

Have you ever love someone so deeply before?
until u could cry yourself to sleep and miss him or her all the way thinking why you are so stupid to let him or her go in the first place?
well i did..
i think almost everyone knows what happen..
Do u think its time for me to let go?
Im tired of waiting and sitting here feeling bad for everything..
I tried to ask for forgiveness..but somehow it is not easy as u and i thought..
sorry..
Im so sorry..
I miss you a lot really..

even though i know that it is totally impossible for that to happen one day , i will still keep on waiting till u willing to trust me..